I am so obsessed about loosing weight. It was a lonely struggle like anybody else. We used to battering ourselves around, punish it through starvation.
In our culture, the standard of beauty is thinnest to the point of anorexia. It took me a year healing my obsession about food. Well.. I learned my lesson about it . The answers to any life problems is always you dont know, you dont have and you dont need to buy. Just be kind to your self and do what is best for you.
Self acceptance is what more needed fo all these. If you learn to accept yourself, you dont need to desire to be like someone else.
It does'nt matter if we dont meet social standard about success or beauty. After all , there is such thing that need to be develop more than physical beauty. It is the spirituality. Its one of the requirements were people can see us, hear us, love us for who we are.